Choosing how to raise children is currently one of the hottest topics in the forums of mothers and fathers with milk. In the past, grandparents taught their children according to feelings and the principle of “love for the whip for a leap” whether with the development of the times and the expansion of the concept of “Westernization” life, the “traditional” way of parenting Does Vietnam still bring effective education? And now there are three famous parenting methods that are applied by the whole world: American-style parenting, Japanese-style parenting, and Jewish parenting; So what is the best way to teach children? easiest to apply with young children in Vietnam and bring the best effect? Please also Brighton read the entire article today.
Teach your children the American, Jewish or Japanese way?
Teaching children the eternal topic that causes parents to have a headache, now in the world there are many ways to teach children that are passed on, of which the three most famous ways of parenting are American parenting, Japanese parenting, and American parenting. Teach your children to be Jewish. So what is the best and most suitable parenting method for your children?
Traditional Vietnamese people have a very emotional way of teaching their children, without following any rules, however, it is impossible to deny the way of teaching children of our ancestors in the past, “love the whip for the leap” brought to the country. There are many talented people, but the way of teaching children with “whip” brings quite negative things at the present time.
Thus, the way of teaching children according to feelings and whips at the present time is no longer appropriate. Parents need to find a more comprehensive and suitable parenting solution for their children. Here we take a look at three of the most popular parenting methods today.
1. Teach your children American style
The US has always been the leading power in the world in many fields: economy, defense, technology… especially in the education of children, which many international citizens admire and follow. The advantages, character, and good habits of Americans today are the result of the education system from families and schools to the development of children’s personality.
Teach children independence and awareness at a very young age
Teach children independence and awareness at a very young age. When they were born, they were arranged to sleep separately, separate from their loved ones. This helps children avoid being too dependent on family members. When children turn two, adults teach children self-help skills such as: getting food, drinking water or milk, playing on their own, and getting up when they fall. Parents and teachers are always persistent, both guiding and encouraging to create independent habits for children until children can perform those habits proficiently. They believe that mastering basic self-help skills will help children increase independence and self-awareness as adults.
Be an example, respect and patiently explain to children
Be an example, respect and patiently explain to children Not only in the US, most children around the world often watch the actions of adults and follow them. Therefore, parents and adults in America pay close attention to their standard behavior in communication. They often repeat good things in front of children and minimize bad habits in their presence.
American children are very respected by adults, but in discipline. When children commit mistakes such as lying, being undisciplined, skipping meals or being disrespectful, adults will punish them by cutting down on toys, playtime, or things related to the child’s interests. The biggest taboo when punishing children is yelling, spanking or threatening. Because children are still children, still very immature. When children think they are not respected and accepted by adults, they will have a very large ego, which can lead to disrespect for parents and elders. Therefore, American parents understand that they will be angry, angry and lose their temper many times with a stubborn child, but must not lose control to the point of teaching their child a “tit-for-tat” style. must always be alert and strict with children at the right time.
Children are always curious and curious about their surroundings. It is the adult’s responsibility to explain and guide, not impose and ignore or avoid when the child asks.
“Obey” and “cooperative” – two different concepts of children
For American parents, the concept of a “good child” is not “obedient” but just “cooperative”. At times when children are stubborn and uncooperative, parents do not punish their children by threatening, scolding, or calling the child “spoiled”, instead they will severely correct, or hit the child’s preferences to lead. For example, children will cooperate completely voluntarily and naturally.
Teach children to behave in a humane, inclusive, and socially responsible manner
American children always have to adapt to family activities and adhere to basic rules including politeness in public and social relations. They are always taught to say thank you when someone gives them something or to be happy when a guest comes to the house…
American parents always teach their children how to welcome new friends. The general rule that they always convey to children is that if children do not get along, they will not be able to participate in any other group games with their friends.
Unlike the culture of many places, which often surrounds and protects when children make mistakes, Americans always direct children to take responsibility for their own mistakes and find ways to solve those difficulties. They only encourage and help in an educational context.
Giving “rights” to children
While children around the world are still shy when going to school or simply socializing, American children are very bold and confident. The secret to having good, cooperative, obedient children is to “empower” children and let them feel these “rights”:
- Give me faith
- Give me respect
- Give your children equal rights
- Give your child self-appreciation
- Give your child encouragement
In the US where human rights are very important, children are given special attention and care. Regardless of race or color, American children are always considered by the Government and people as a national “property”; needs to be loved, preserved and maximized development potentials. This is one of the reasons that make the United States increasingly strong economically, always leading the world in many fields.
2. Teach your child Japanese style
Japanese parenting needs to start early, during pregnancy and infancy because every new-born baby is the same. The main difference is due to the way the parents raised. Kindergarten is also very important to perfect your baby’s foundational personality.
Teaching children Japanese style does not take too much time when children start elementary school. Because before that, it was the meticulous parenting style of Japanese parents that molded their children to the “rails” of society’s personality from the very beginning. Children can be self-aware of their own learning and personality.
Japan, which is admired by the whole world for its very own and effective education method. The education of this country of the rising sun always emphasizes the self-discipline of each individual, so from a young age, Japanese children have been educated to always rely on themselves, live independently and responsibly.
1. Teach your children Japanese style with short slogans
Young children love what is intuitive, fun, and easy to remember. Therefore, the Japanese Ministry of Culture, Sports, Science and Technology has launched a movement to put slogans in the family to encourage exchange in the family. Slogans like “It’s morning! Wake up early! Walk! Delicious rice!”; “Going to bed before 9pm will always be healthy”; “Follow it – Small commitments – Don’t forget.” These slogans are close, easy to remember and any family can apply.
2. Parents need to take control of the decision
Once you’ve set the rules, you need to stick to them. Young children are very changeable, sometimes they agree to obey but sometimes they fight back and ask for something. An important thing in Japanese parenting is that parents should not easily accommodate their children’s demands. Teach your baby the habit of tolerance!
3. Strictly punish when you do wrong
Stop thinking “just being good for yourself is enough” or “don’t need to follow the rules”. For the wrong behavior of children, you need to severely criticize or give appropriate punishment. And to do this, you must be an exemplary father and mother. Stick to the rules and show your baby it. Once you are a parent who is respected and trusted by your children, you will have no trouble persuading your child to obey.
4. The things the Japanese teach their children make “the whole world admire”
If you miss the newborn period, when the child is growing up, parents can still apply the following Japanese parenting:
- Being smart at school is not as important as having good character, honesty, and love
- Living and studying environment is very important because Japanese people always try to move to a better place if possible
- Love the child but decide not to indulge. Anorexia, keep fasting. Call, keep calling. Parents usually do not interfere in these petty matters. Because they don’t know what a hunger strike is, hungry children will eat. Absolutely do not force, do not scold or nag. Eating is a serious matter, must be on time, not sitting there.
- Must be respectful, tactful and behave intelligently. Let your child solve his own problems.
- Children must be taught to be honest by their own parents not to lie at home and in real life.
- If your child is doing something that doesn’t affect anyone, is harmless, or isn’t dangerous, don’t interfere.
- When your child is 5 years old, you should teach them how to spend money. Parents can give children pocket change and control spending.
- You must teach your children to be brave, to take responsibility for their own actions. Teach your child to wait. Teaching about meaning and love. Life giving and receiving is two-way. Happy people are those who usually take little and give a lot. At school, you have to discipline and do not hit your friends first. But if someone hits you, you can still defend or fight back if necessary, don’t tell her or scream. When you get home, you can keep quiet if you don’t want to.
- Failure is normal. Wherever you fall, get up without waiting for anyone to help you.
- Children often get sick, this is nothing to worry about. Even it is normal for children to be out in the sun or in the rain all day. Let the children feel comfortable in contact with nature. As a result, the child will be stronger.
- Learning does not have to be holding a book. Learning is playing is playing is screaming at the house.
- Parents always have to spend time playing with their children no matter how busy they are. The games are innocent but I like them, I laugh. Laughter is very important to help children stand firm in the midst of storms.
3. Teaching according to the Jews
Jewish children are always taught by their parents to work hard and manage their time. Although the population is very small, only 13 million people, it has 40% of the Nobel Prize winners. The secret to their success is parenting.
Always encourage children to be independent
To help their children grow up from an early age, Jews always teach their children to be independent. They teach their children to eat by themselves, to hold their own spoons and chopsticks, to do things at their own age. For example, if you go to any cafe in Israel, it is not difficult to see Jewish children eating alone even though they are only about 1 year old.
Jewish parents always create conditions for their children to study, independently do everything within their ability, and their health allows. In Vietnam, most parents fear that their child is too young to be able to do everything on their own, concrete evidence that even though the child is 4 or 5 years old, his parents still feed him rice every day. It is these things that have formed children’s habit of relying on their parents, being surrounded by their parents, making it difficult for them to succeed in the future.
No orders, only suggestions
They never dictate anything to do because these things are very much like dictators. Instead, parents will be the ones to give suggestions to their children and let them decide for themselves according to their wishes. Parents will also never supervise their children constantly, appearing anytime, anywhere with their children, but will let children be free within their own safe framework.
However, this way of education will have two sides, because the child’s judgments will sometimes fail, making him feel depressed and no longer interested in doing. Jewish parents are also extremely open to these mistakes and failures and help their children to move on. If your child gets low grades in school, they won’t criticize you, but will work with you to find the problem and solve it.
Teach your child to read from a young age
Books were precious to the Jews, who viewed them as an invaluable asset. So they always teach children to read from a young age and teach them to appreciate books. From the first time they come into contact with books, they will put a drop of honey in the book and let the child kiss the book.
They want their children to remember those first sweet moments when they got their hands on the book. Because Jews believe that if children know how to appreciate books, books will also give them sweet knowledge. Therefore, Jews always make up the highest percentage of the world’s top Nobel laureates.
Praise your child as soon as possible
Jewish parents always praise their children, even when the children do not understand the language of their parents. Children’s activities such as knowing how to draw or talk will be praised by their parents from specific actions. A special thing in Jewish families is that the children will be praised by their parents in crowded places because they feel their respect, presence and position in society.
If the child achieves impressive and excellent achievements, parents and all family members will applaud and give loving congratulations to the baby. This will help children improve their self-esteem, promote their spirit of learning and working style.
Trust your child
Jewish parents always trust their children when they assign them to do something within their ability, they believe that their children will complete them excellently. It may sound strange that when their child gets a high score or wins a contest, the reward they give their child is absolute trust.
But for Vietnamese parents, they often give their children candy or a favorite toy. The Jewish way of education is completely different from parents in the world because they believe that trusting their children is the most valuable reward for their children, this shows that your child has grown and matured. it’s more than that.
Learn to accept clutter
Jewish parents believe that children are always curious and curious about everything around them and are still very playful, but this will change as they grow up. Therefore, when having fun, parents always give their children freedom, freely arrange their favorite toys without fear of parents scolding or threatening.
Jewish parents will not scold when the child is not neat, but they also create conditions for the child to freely play and mess around. This is how children develop thinking later.
Always let children enjoy exploring
Unlike other parents in the world, Jewish parents will never scold or run after their children with a whip to ask them not to do this, not to play that. Because children are always very active and full of energy, so they need to be able to express their energy outside.
Jewish parents believe that educating children to freely and freely explore what they like and the world around them will help them become more confident and successful in adulthood.
All children’s efforts are appreciated
Jewish parents believe that every child’s efforts are worthy of recognition, big or small, and are rewarded by their parents. For example, when their children write squiggly words on a napkin, parents are proud to praise and introduce them to the whole family like a picture.
Jews believe that this way of education will help children feel confident and happy about the achievements they make. In the future, children will try harder, develop positively and achieve higher achievements.
Do not assign negative words to your child
Jewish parents never say to their children: “You’re bad” “You’re lazy”… and they will never associate words with negative connotations. But they will replace those statements with the words: “Why would a well-behaved child like you cause such unfortunate behavior?”
Especially, when in front of outsiders and other children, parents will never criticize or scold, they will find a more flexible way to communicate to their children. The Jews are aware and grasp very well the shortcomings and bad actions of their children, they will skillfully shape and re-educate their children without outside interference.
Take responsibility for your own behavior
Being responsible for your own behavior is something that Jews attach great importance to, they always set an example for their children to learn and follow. In front of their children, Jewish parents always act cautiously and show seriousness in all activities and decisions.
When their children misbehave, they always teach their children to take responsibility for their actions because this will teach them to be responsible, to be aware of their actions and mistakes, and to correct their behavior later. .
Teach children how to manage time
From an early age, children are taught by their parents how to work hard and how to manage their time properly so that things do not overlap. Jewish parents always let their children learn many other skills and subjects at the same time with a large amount of time such as violin, English, math.
If the child’s parents do business, the children will be able to join the family business with their parents from a very early age. Since then, with such large and continuous experiential activities, children have to learn how to manage their time, organize their work, and always tell themselves to work hard.
Jewish parents always dedicate this familiar saying to their children “Let’s move forward”. The meaning of this saying is that children must do things on their own, always develop themselves instead of standing still and achieving their own success. They always allow their children to venture out of their comfort zone, explore the world, and deal with their own problems.
This is meant to help children learn about confidence, failure, and victory. Parents always keep a close eye on their children and pay attention to each child’s activities and give praise and encouragement in time. This helps children persevere in pursuing their goals and be willing to take risks.